It’s Okay to Love Yourself Day

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Gautama Buddha Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year where we overtly show our affections for other people.  But actually, don’t we do that every day? When we check our mobile ‘phones as soon as we wakeContinue reading “It’s Okay to Love Yourself Day”

Ego-friendly: how toxic behaviour is bad for you and the environment

I was listening to a teaching by Pema Chödrön where she was describing the impact of behaviour on those around us, and she used the word pollution.  She encouraged students not to add to the pollution in the world by getting sucked in to, or hooked by, negative thoughts; she said this only adds to the global problem ofContinue reading “Ego-friendly: how toxic behaviour is bad for you and the environment”

The Tortoise and the Hare: why winners aren’t always who you think 

The story goes that the tortoise and the hare were in a race. The hare, a very confident and somewhat noisy fellow (so we’re told), decided he could sit back and wait until the last possible minute to cross the finish line. He felt, because the tortoise was so slow, there was no chance hisContinue reading “The Tortoise and the Hare: why winners aren’t always who you think “

Aftermath – the dark side of confronting toxic parents

Jack was 39 years old when he decided enough was enough. He’d been bullied all his life. He was “too short” and “too fat” at school. He was in a loveless relationship for 15 years to a woman who cheated repeatedly. (They tried marriage guidance but apparently it was “all his fault”). At work, hisContinue reading “Aftermath – the dark side of confronting toxic parents”

Domestic Abuse: The darkness behind the smile

Jenny was 33 when she met James. She had been on her own for about six months when they started seeing each other and she had enjoyed the single life.  They’d met through someone at work and at first would just meet for a coffee.  She remembers how he made her laugh, although looking backContinue reading “Domestic Abuse: The darkness behind the smile”