Toxic Parenting: How to Survive When Parents Mess You Up

Fran* recently had some bad news. Someone she thought she could trust, let her down in a really bad way. As we talked through how she felt about it, she had this sudden moment of clarity. The person Fran cared for didn’t love her back, at least not in the way she’d hoped. Whilst onContinue reading “Toxic Parenting: How to Survive When Parents Mess You Up”

Ego-friendly: how toxic behaviour is bad for you and the environment

I was listening to a teaching by Pema Chödrön where she was describing the impact of behaviour on those around us, and she used the word pollution.  She encouraged students not to add to the pollution in the world by getting sucked in to, or hooked by, negative thoughts; she said this only adds to the global problem ofContinue reading “Ego-friendly: how toxic behaviour is bad for you and the environment”

Aftermath – the dark side of confronting toxic parents

Jack was 39 years old when he decided enough was enough. He’d been bullied all his life. He was “too short” and “too fat” at school. He was in a loveless relationship for 15 years to a woman who cheated repeatedly. (They tried marriage guidance but apparently it was “all his fault”). At work, hisContinue reading “Aftermath – the dark side of confronting toxic parents”