New Year Mojo – Take Up Space

How are you feeling?

It’s been a tense week for some, and in the next couple of days we will say goodbye not just to another year –   but an entire decade; and wow, what a decade it’s been right?

In some ways, 2019 has been a year of national positives that we can all be proud of, but there have also been public tragedies, community tensions and private challenges. 

We’ve seen events like:
• Global movements opening conversations around women’s rights and climate change.
• A president impeached for only the third time in history.
• The world’s first ever museum opened in London dedicated to gynaecological health.
• Rick Astley liked one of my tweets (he’ll never let you down).

If that wasn’t enough in the last decade we’ve also had:
• New governments elected.
• Two royal weddings and (at least) one royal scandal. 
• And for many in the U.K., we’ve been divided down the middle about Brexit.  Relationships fused together in some ways, and fractured in others.  

​It’s felt personal, chaotic, exciting and uncertain – sometimes all at the same time.

As a way of coping, we sometimes shrink to avoid making our presence felt. We make ourselves smaller, take up less space, so as not to upset the apple cart. We hide our opinions to keep the peace.
We hold back for fear of creating more problems.
It can leave us feeling a little disconnected from the rest of the world.

I mentioned last week that at this time of year the media starts to focus on what you should do or be, but I see things differently. You are already enough. You don’t need to be better, or a newer version of yourself.

If you want to be somewhere else though, it starts with knowing you don’t want to be where you are, and that you don’t have to get there on your own. Let others help you, to feel reconnected. And let the world see you in all your glory.

Here’s something you could try:

This year, set the intention to Take Up Space. Imagine yourself in a year’s time (and then 10 years if you want to). Where do you want to be? Who will you be talking to? How will you be spending your time? Allow your imagination to flow. Now take a blank sheet of paper, and fill it with words and images that encapsulate your vision. Highlight the spaces and places you need to occupy to make it happen. Maybe you need to expand or embrace your social network, update your CV or put your opinions forward where you’ve previously held back. Let your presence be felt in 2020 and let the life you’ve imagined unfold. People heal – and sparkle – when they feel seen, heard and connected. Let yourself glow.

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Copyright Delphi Ellis

Published by Delphi Ellis

Therapeutic counsellor, well-being trainer and author working with grief and mental health, helping people get their sparkle back. Explores dreams on telly. Avid tea drinker. © Delphi Ellis - Helping You Sparkle™ 2006 - 21

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