How are you with unfinished business?
Many of us lock things away. And sometimes that feels helpful at the time.
We put it in a box.
Close the lid tightly.
And leave it for “another day”.
Making room for difficult emotions leaves us feeling vulnerable; it feels counter-intuitive to let our true feelings show – the ones some label as “negative” – so we endeavour to push them away.
The reality is we end up pushing them down, not out. Emotions go, as I call it, “under ground”. They hide in the corners of our minds, until something similar happens in later years and then joins up (like a mind generated dot-to-dot) with all our past experiences – the ones we think we’ve locked away so tidily – to smack us in the face when we least expect it. Can you relate?
People often associate vulnerability with weakness but once recognised it can actually be the cornerstone to confidence, and the pathway to courage.
This week set the intention to Heal It Slowly. If something has been weighing you down, see if you can lighten the load. Talk to a friend who understands you, spend time in the company of those who lift you, and talk to your GP if things have become a real struggle. Deal with one situation at a time, knowing there’s no rush, just taking small steps when you can. Feel what you feel, without trying to judge it as “right” or “wrong”. Make plenty of time for self-care, including walks in nature, singing in the shower, trying mindfulness and dancing to your favourite tunes. And fill your personal spaces with loving mantras that reassure you that you have a right to be heard, a right to be here and that you matter. Every day.
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