How do you cope when someone says something unkind?
It might be directly to you, or about someone or something that matters to you. It can leave us feeling edgy. Uncomfortable. Even sad.
When I was in my third pregnancy, and I found the courage to tell someone close to me how anxious I was, they told me I was “a bit of a wimp”. Its one of the reasons, I do the work I do today.
Part of my work is about challenging stigma. It’s about providing education on what’s helpful (and what’s not) and sometimes saying what needs to be said. (It’s one of the reasons I designed the “Prepared to be Unpopular t-shirt).
There are times when I call society out for making things worse (especially on Twitter, like those Tampax adverts that show women jumping out of aeroplanes on their period. Trust me, no one wants to do that). I’ve also found a well-timed eye roll will make my point.
Words have power. They can heal or hurt. And the good news is, we don’t have to put up with the hurtful ones.
This week set the intention to Shake It Off. Decide which battles are worth fighting, and those which just don’t need your time or energy. Think about what really matters and don’t be afraid to say it your way. Let go of those times when you made a mistake, find your own words to comfort you. When people disagree with you, create a comeback you’re comfortable with. And most of all, find something to do for yourself this week so that if you feel like you’re carrying it all around with you, you can wash it / shake it / dance it all off at the end of the day.
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