How are your New Year’s resolutions going?
If you’re on a roll, that’s amazing. But if you let out a big sigh, honestly don’t worry. For many people, by the third week of January, they’ve already face planted. It happens. It’s normal. You’re not alone.
If the last two years have taught us anything, it’s that with the best will in the world, events can change everything. Goals can deviate. Things don’t quite go to plan. Kute Blackson calls this the “Illusion of Control”. In a recent seminar, he said:
“The illusion of control is the master addiction. If 2020 taught us anything it’s that we are not as in control as we thought we were. Surrender is not about being weak or passive, or giving up your dreams; surrender is to give up the illusion of control. Give up the idea of who you think you should be, what your purpose should be, so that you can truly open yourself to the deeper unfolding of life. Ask yourself instead, what is it that life is seeking to express through me?”
Here’s what might help:
This week, maybe Start With Intention. Sometimes we fly ahead with our goals or wishes, that we don’t make room for what we really want, only how we think it “should” be. This means envisioning what that will look like becomes a blur; we can’t aim for what we can’t see.
Grab a piece of paper and start to draw, write or type words that resonate with what your version of a Best Life would look like. You might cut out some magazine pieces of your dream holiday, or describe all the ways you’re going to bring your gifts in to the world.
Kute also said it’s not always about aiming too far ahead. Sometimes we just need to do the next right thing. You might find you’re presented with an unexpected opportunity, a phone call out of the blue or an email asking for your time. So if or when that happens check in with yourself – how does it feel to say yes? How does it feel to say no?
And ultimately, as Kute said, what would it be like to surrender? To just hand it all over to the Universe for a while and trust in the process of becoming. Because your future is bright, and hope is definitely on the horizon.
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