What’s the first thing you thought about this morning?
If it was wondering what sort of dramas may unfold today (perhaps especially true on a Monday), there’s a good reason for that.
As humans we are wired with something called the ‘negativity bias’. This is actually a healthy thing; for example, if you accidentally burnt yourself getting dinner out of the oven that one time, your brain created a red flag that says “don’t do that again, it hurts”. That means the next time we go to grab something tasty from the stove, the red flag reminds us to be more careful – and it goes without incident.
The problem is, the red flags pop up to remind us of all kinds of pain we’ve experienced. As a result, we can have any number of thoughts that talk us in to – and out of – various scenarios. This can then lead to anxiety and before we know it we’re not enjoying time around places and people we love.
Here’s what might help:
This week, maybe set the intention to Pause the Talk. My blog explores, one place to start is with our internal narrative and to discern which thoughts need attention and which we can ditch. It might sound easier said than done (these things usually take time) but it can be helpful now and then to remind ourselves that we don’t always have to buy what the mind is selling.
You might also choose to focus on something that really matters to you – write down why setting this goal is important and why you’re prepared to withstand the anxiety for the sake of helping you achieve it. (You could maybe do this with the help of a friend or counsellor).
Above all, remember thoughts can feel real that doesn’t always mean they’re true. You really don’t have to believe everything you think.
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