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Musings, happy thoughts and general feel-good vibes to help you sparkle.

Mindfulness: It’s The Thought That Counts

We have thousands of thoughts a day. It’s been suggested we have between 12,000 to 80,000 thoughts, which could be as many as 2,500 an hour. According to some articles up to 85% of the thoughts we have are negative, and 90% are repetitive….

A rest is as good as a change – using mindfulness for managing uncertainty

How do you feel about change? We like to be in control, generally speaking. We like to feel prepared, to know what’s going to happen next, and – if change is coming – we want to be on the right side of it.  In…

Setting Boundaries: Why Your Personal Ground Rules Matter and How to Make Them

If you’ve ever attended a professional training course, you’ll know the first thing the teacher usually does is set the ground rules for the day. These almost always include respecting each other’s opinion, and switching off your mobile ‘phone. But how often do you…

Seasonal Self-Care – taking care of yourself at Christmas (and beyond)

At this time of year, self-care and setting healthy boundaries with yourself, family and friends are important. Here are some ideas of how to take care of yourself this Christmas (and beyond): • Create positive space as much as possible, keep your mental health…

Toxic Parenting: How to Survive When Parents Mess You Up

Fran* recently had some bad news. Someone she thought she could trust, let her down in a really bad way. As we talked through how she felt about it, she had this sudden moment of clarity. The person Fran cared for didn’t love her…

Ditch the guilt: Take the pressure off and live life your way

Exercise more. But don’t get too skinny. Make sure your kids eat well, but don’t indulge them. Sit quietly. But make your voice heard. Work hard. But make time for family and friends. There is an immense pressure lately to be perfect. The messages…

Making space to talk: responding with empathy when someone’s struggling

Someone tells you they’re having a rough time. How do you respond?

The Spotlight Effect – why science says no one’s watching (we just think they are)

Have you ever had a moment where you stumble on a cobbled pavement (in front of loads of people taking photos) and think everyone must have seen? What about that time you said “love you!” instead of “lovely, thank you” to your boss and…

The Power of Words: how mindful communication is good for your mental health

One of the workshops I deliver in Milton Keynes is for people who want to get their sparkle back and learn techniques for maintaining good mental health.  In one of the sessions, we talk about the Power of Words. Imagine for a moment you have…

Sorry, not sorry – why we need to stop apologising when it’s not our fault

How often do you say sorry every day?  A recent survey of more than 1,000 Brits (discussed in this article) found that that the ‘average’ person says “sorry” around eight times per day – and that one in eight people apologise up to 20 times…

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