Monday Mojo – Navigate the Change

How do you cope with uncertainty?

It’s fair to say, there’s been a lot of it lately. Whether you’re keeping up with the news or not, on some level many of us are starting to wonder what the future holds. Sometimes with healthy curiosity; in some cases tinged with panic. In any event, it can leave us feeling off-balance. 

Uncertainty isn’t always about something on a national, or international scale – it can be much closer to home. It can look like a lot of things:
knowing what’s happening with work, or a relationship;
questioning the value of a friendship;
deciding if you’ve got the right deal on a mortgage;
or just what shape the week ahead will take.  

Fear can keep us in our comfort zones, which makes change we didn’t ask for even harder to handle. 

As human beings, it’s important to feel in control, particularly when change is coming.  Whether it’s change you asked for, or something you didn’t plan, knowing how to find your way through uncertainty can make the difference to coping or not. 

This week, set then intention to Navigate the Change. Prepare as best as possible by controlling what you can, and deciding what’s out of your hands. Reach out to friends or professionals if uncertainty is creating unhealthy anxiety. Recognise the strength you’ve already shown by coping with the uncertainty you’ve experienced in life, and draw on those skills when you need them. And above all remember your breath can literally bring you back to centre, so breathe through anything that leaves you feeling unsettled. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Ditch The Scales

How do you feel about comparisons?

It’s fair to say, we live in a world of them and, for many, it’s taking its toll. 

With social media and relentless advertising on the telly, telling us what we should buy, how much we should weigh, and why we should strive to be perfect, it’s easy to feel like a race you can never win.  And sometimes you might feel like you never quite measure up.  

When we unknowingly compare ourselves to others, it’s like trying to balance a set of scales that are weighed in someone else’s favour. 

If you’ve also grown up with a voice inside your head that tells you to push harder, faster, further whatever the cost, because of a need to make someone else proud of you, you can equally feel like you’re striving for someone else’s goal. The balance of power shifts in someone else’s direction, and you may feel like you’re not in control. 

This is why it’s so important to find your version of balance, and what that looks like for you, rather than trying to achieve someone else’s. 

This week, set the intention to Ditch the Scales. Do away with unhealthy comparisons and decide what balance looks like for you.  It might be walks in the park, or conversations over a cuppa. If you’re struggling with direction, know you have everything inside you, to get where you want to be. If you’re realising you’re living someone else’s dream, ask yourself whose life are you livingand imagine the life you want to live. Do things because you want to do them, not because someone else is telling you what to think and do. And above all, don’t let other people’s idea of happiness steal yours.

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©️Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Level the Playing Field

Do you ever feel life is unfair?

There will be times when things just don’t go your way.
You make all the right moves.
Take all the right steps.
And somehow still find yourself in a situation you never saw coming. 

Occasionally we realise we took a wrong turn. Sometimes you’ll see an opportunity to learn something new. But then there are times when it’s other people not doing what they said, or being who you thought they were. 

We often take the “at fault position”, automatically believing we are to blame when things don’t work out; yet time often shows us that’s not how it is. But because we want to see the best in everyone, we turn a blind eye.  
Give more chances.
And hope for the best.  
If that’s the case, it might be time to change the game. 

This week, set the intention to Level the Playing Field. What do you need in your life right now to bring yourself back to centre? What conversations do you need to have, to find yourself on an even keel? You might surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, or create opportunities to enjoy peace and quiet. You might decide to do more of the things that bring the light back into your life, where there’s been some darkness for a while, and if someone has shown their true colours, give yourself time to think and breathe, before you say what needs to be said. But, whatever you do, don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Reset the Moment

How are you finding 2019 so far?

At Saturday’s Serenity we reflected on how quickly we’ve arrived in March, and used the time and space to bring ourselves back to centre. We talked about how the year’s gone so far and, if we’ve steered off course a little, talked about how to reset so that we can aim for where we want to be. 

Finding balance in a busy world is hard:
There’s always work to be done. 
Places to be. 
People to please. 

And then there’s all the plans we’ve made. The hopes we’ve had. The dreams we hope to fulfil. It can be overwhelming. 

This is why, now and then, it’s helps to take a step back, and start again. 

This week, set the intention to Reset the Moment. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by life right now, or how quickly time flies, remember it’s just as important when you’re busy to rest and recharge your batteries.  To pause. Take a breath. Reconnect. And then carry on. Allow yourself time and space this week to take as many pauses as you need, and then when you’re ready,  take one step at a time.  Rest, but don’t quit.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Savour the Journey

What’s the pace of your life right now?

Sometimes, when life is busy, we can find ourselves on a different path, than we planned to travel down.
People or events may steer us in an unexpected direction.
We get swept up.
We lose our way.

Sometimes that’s not always a bad thing, as long as you’re on board with it. 

But you may find yourself regretting decisions you’ve made and beating yourself up, even though at the time they felt like the right – or only – thing to do. 

Life starts to feel like a fairground ride that’s getting faster.  It’s unpredictable, a bit scary and eventually can wear you out. 

It’s not always easy to pin-point the exact moment things changed direction, especially if you’ve been busy putting other’s happiness before your own.

This is why pausing to define what’s motivating you, or driving your decision making, can be helpful, and prevent you from burning out

This week, set the intention to Savour The Journey. Take some time to reflect on your path so far, and celebrate how far you’ve come.  Decide what’s guiding your decision making right now, and if that’s driving you forward to where you want to be. Then think about what gets your motor running, and whether or not you’re doing enough of what you enjoy.

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©️Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Let it Simmer

Have you noticed that life has its own timescale?

In a world where we can get whatever we want (materially) at the touch of a button, it makes sense that we might find waiting a chore.  Whether it’s to find out if you got that job, or if the date you’ve seen is going to call you back, life can sometimes feel like it’s put us on hold. And other people might expect we live to their timescales too. 

It’s easy to think we have to make big decisions when things are taking their time, or people are pushing us too hard. We might feel compelled to say something. We might have a knee-jerk reaction, and do something we don’t mean. We might just write it all off, altogether. 

This is why, when we’ve done all we can to ensure our own success, sometimes we have to decide to just sit, and wait. 

This week, set the intention to Let It Simmer. If you’re feeling frustrated that someone isn’t working to your timescales, remember that sometimes things turn out better when we wait. If someone is pushing you, create some space that allows you to take your time, and if you can communicate what you need. In the meantime, create a plan of what you really want, and by when. Use any time left waiting, as an opportunity to take care of yourself, in a way that’s meaningful, without feeling like you’re at someone else’s mercy to be happy. Do what you can, with what you have, from where you are. And then let everything else flow and fall into place. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Change the Recipe

Do you ever find you get stuck with the same routine?

It happens easily, and it’s not always a bad thing. It’s good to know where we are, what we like and what we’re doing. 

But sometimes, we fall into a rut.
We do the same things. 
We wear the same things. 
We eat the same things. 
And it’s not always because money gets in the way of trying something new. 

Change is scary. When things feel like they’re out of our comfort zone, we might manouvre ourself out of it. We turn down an invite. We put back that sparkly top on the rack. We order the same thing from the menu.  But if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. 

This week, set the intention to Change The Recipe.  Start to think about where you’ve fallen into a routine which might not be working for you, and what you can do to spice things up a bit. Add some flavour to your life by saying yes to an invite, or try a recipe at home that you’ve not tried before. And if it feels a bit scary, acknowledge that – feel the fear and, if the change feels promising, do it anyway. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Feed Your Soul

When you’ve had a hard day, how do you take care of yourself?

The world feels more intense when things aren’t going our way. If someone’s been unkind, or we feel we fell short in some way, it can knock the wind right out of our sails.  Even on the days when you feel you’ve done your best, somehow it can feel like it still wasn’t good enough. 

When the world challenges us, we might stop doing things we know are good for us – like eating lunch; it falls by the wayside.  
Becaude we forget. 
Because it’s a chore.
Because we don’t have time.
And we might resort to other ways – like reaching for the Jaffa Cakes – just because.  Then we feel bad for that too. 

It’s on days like this we can turn our attention to things that, rather than bring us down, can reach down inside and lift us up.  It’s not always about food, it might be something that nourishes you in a different way. 

This week, set the intention to Feed Your Soul. It might be that you rediscover a favourite meal, and enjoy preparing and making it for yourself. Perhaps you can  reconnect with a hobby that you’ve had to put on hold, that lights a bit of sparkle inside of you. Or even get in touch with a friend, and watch something on Netflix together. Whatever it is, it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Replenish from the inside out with things that can help you feel warm and brighter again. Because you deserve this.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Delay Your Yes

How do you feel when you say no?

If you got that pinch in your stomach just thinking about it, you’ll recognise the sense of anxiety when we try to tell someone they’re not getting what they want. So, we might cave, and let them get their way.

It’s not wrong, because it’s instinctive.  What I mean is, there’s probably a good reason for saying yes when you mean no.

As children we might have said no a lot. We might have come across as defiant if, say, we didn’t want to eat our dinner.

For saying no, we might have got into trouble. Sometimes (for example), the punishment might be no pudding if you didn’t clear your plate. You might not have got into real trouble, but the message was “you’re going to miss out on something if you stick with that no”.

And, it came back at us too. We want to go out on a school night? The answer was probably – “No”. “Can I have some sweets?” Again, the answer probably – “No.”

So, from an early age we learn that saying no has consequences. We associate it with rejection and denial.

Fast forward to being an adult, and we carry this and other programming with us. We find ways to say yes to people, because we don’t want to pay the price. As a result we can become what’s known as “people pleasers”:
We say yes when we mean no.
We do things we don’t want to do.
We spend time with people we’d rather not.

We need to make our wellbeing a priority. We need to look at our yes’s, and put them on hold.

This week, set the intention to Delay Your Yes. Find ways to put off an answer, even if people are pressing you for one. You can say things like “that doesn’t work for me today, maybe tomorrow?” or “I’d like some time to think about that, can I let you know?” Or, “can you text/email me with the details and I’ll get back to you.” But remember if it’s not in your best interests, if it’s unhealthy or steals your mojo, you have a right to say no, without explaining yourself.

 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Pay for a Dream Interpretation

What does your dream mean?

The subject of dreams fascinates people, and I’ve been working with dreams professionally for over a decade, including appearances in the media, helping people explore and understand their meanings.  There are a number of different theories about why we dream and what they mean, so I work in an integrated way to help people explore and decipher the messages within them.

A dream interpretation aims to provide insight and food for thought.  It is not a definitive explanation of your dream, because everyone is different.  This is why when I offer dream analysis, I will ask questions about the content and what it may mean for you as part of that exploration.  It can include counselling, and guidance on how to get a better night’s sleep.

Dream analysis is now only available via telephone (U.K. only) or Skype at a cost of £25 for up to 50 minutes. This can include a brief transcript of the call by email afterwards, containing the key points we discussed, where requested.

 

Whether it’s a recurring dream or one you’ve had only once. You’ll also receive top tips and guidance appropriate to the content of your message. You can share as much or as little detail as you can remember, it can be a current dream or one you had years ago.

Delphi sent my [dream] analysis via email. The analysis itself was so accurate and made a lot of sense to me, and has helped me to resolve and make sense of some things that have reoccurred frequently in my dreams.” L.

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Everyone is different so what a dream means to one person, can be different to the next. I aim to offer a professional exploration of your dream, based on the information you provide, so the more you feel able to share, the more in-depth this will be.

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