Monday Mojo – Visualise Your Future

If you wrote a letter to your future self, what would it say?

You might write:
”I hope you got that job you’ve always wanted”
“May the years have been kind”
Or even “You see? It does get better”. 

When we frantically run the treadmill of life, one day we wake up and wonder how on Earth we arrived at an unknown location. Knowing where you’re going matters, especially if it’s not staying where you are.

That doesn’t mean mapping out every minute of your life until retirement and beyond. But having a vision of the life we want to live can help.

This week, maybe set the intention to Visualise Your Future. This article contains some ideas of talking to your future self, which includes looking at what you do today that might affect the years ahead. You can ask whether the habits you have today will get you where you want to be, or if you live each day aligned with the values you hold most dear. At the end of each day you could keep a journal listing what your values are and how you achieved them each day. For example if friendship matters, you could write how you checked in on one of your mates. If reliability is important, you could write how you turned up for work on time. Progress is often in the “little” things.

You could create a vision board that looks like all the things you want in your life whether it’s images of a gorgeous house, good company or writing that book you’ve been thinking about.

You could also look at how you speak to yourself each day. Are you being kind and reassuring or beating yourself up? The Power of Words can make a real difference to how we think and how we feel. Make it a priority to be kind to yourself every day.

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Copyright Delphi Ellis 2021

Monday Mojo – Expand the Comfort

How do you feel about change?

I mean, if the last fifteen months has been a journey in anything, it’s been how to adapt and overcome. But that doesn’t always mean we can change at the drop of a hat – or that we should. 

During the height of COViD-19, we were living moment to moment. Just as we got used to one set of rules, they changed again.

As we await news of whether the restrictions will ease further in June in the U.K., it makes sense if you’re bracing yourself. Whether you’ve been desperate to get back to socialising in larger groups, want to expand your social circle or will actually be secretly pleased if things stay as they are, you may well be wondering what we’ll have to adapt to next.

Often we will sit inside our comfort zones because it feels safe, and that’s ok. But sometimes we need to stretch our limits or try new things so that we can realise our true potential and see what we can really cope with.

Here’s what might help:

This week set the intention to Expand the Comfort. Have a think about how far you want or feel you need to move out of your comfort zone – sometimes we can move too far too fast, and that in itself can be stressful. Finding ways to try new things but at a pace that feels safe and healthy also works. Sometimes we may think we need to make changes when actually it’s ok to stay where we are (at least, for now). Maybe start with asking “do I need to make this decision today?”

One of the reasons we can also find change difficult is because we become rigid in our thinking; in my mindfulness classes I talk about a “fixed mindset.” If we think things have to be a certain way in order to be ok, we can suffer, even if in the short term we do it just so we can feel safe. This article explains the benefits of taking small steps and exploring alternative perspectives. Yes it can be uncomfortable at first, but before long your mojo could be flowing.

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Copyright Delphi Ellis 2021

Monday Mojo – May Bank Holiday Self-Care Special

Whilst last week I spoke how it’s important to Let It Out, I don’t think any of us were ready for yet more drama unfolding in the halls of U.K. government. Whether you watch the news or not, the tensions these revelations create can feed into our daily lives:
Through our social media feeds.
Conversations at work.
Even round the dinner table.
So I thought I’d switch things up a bit.

You might know by now that this weekly message is all about helping you find your mojo and getting your sparkle back. So in view of this, and with it being another Bank Holiday Monday here in the U.K., I’ve offered some self-care loveliness to help you thrive into the week ahead.

Here’s three hours of gorgeous relaxation music:

Here’s 50 Good News Stories to help add a bit of sunshine.

Here’s a 15 Self-Care Ideas Guide to help improve your sense of well-being. (My favourite is the “Take Yourself Out on a Date”).

And here’s a personal message – of appreciation:

Every day, in every way, things are getting better and better. It might be slow progress, but forward is still forward. You matter to the world.

There will always be people who push your buttons of course. Whether it’s a disagreement about politics, a colleague not pulling their weight, or a family member not throwing the empty loo roll away, you can always hold on to the fact that you are enough. 

So whether you’re furious at the world right now, totally winging it, or just about getting there: I’m rooting for you. Just do what you can, with what you have, from where you are.

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Copyright Delphi Ellis 2021

Monday Mojo – Let it Out

Have you ever felt like you wanted to say something but for whatever reason you stayed quiet?

You bit your lip. 
Sat on your hands. 
Held it all in. 

When I’m teaching about this, one of the things I’m careful to say is that, as a feeling, anger is valid. All emotion has its own intelligence; it’s trying to tell us something. But in a civilised society, we have been trained over the years to withhold and suppress it. As a result, we push it down. We de-press it. And that can make us sad and silenced.

Here’s what might help:

This week maybe set the intention to Let It Out. It’s not our anger that creates difficulty, it’s the way we might feel tempted to express it. So knowing how – and when – to vent can be useful. Instead of launching into a verbal attack, pause and become aware of what needs to happen next.

If you know you’ve got a difficult conversation coming up do a self-care check in first. Literally ask yourself the question “can I say this and be kind today?” and if not, see if you can reschedule the dialogue for another day. If you can’t avoid it, maybe create a plan to self-soothe before and after the event so you go in – and come out – as calm as you’d like to stay, whilst saying what needs to be said.

We can learn ways to manage our ”tricky emotions” when they rise – using everything from boxing to going for a walk. We know that trees are great listeners, and the research supports that spending just 40 minutes in their company can improve our mood.

If it helps, it’s ok to have a really good cry. It’s healthier than you might know, and more liberating than you might think.

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Copyright Delphi Ellis 2021

Monday Mojo – Travel the Storm

If your mood was like the weather today, what would you predict: a fabulous ray of sunshine, or cloudy with a chance of meatballs?

When we wake up every morning, we never know for sure what the day will bring. We might have plans with good intentions but it’s always possible something – or someone – may try and rain on our parade.

When we are navigating a difficult time, whether it’s overwhelm or heartbreak, it can sometimes feel that everything is just “too much”. The world can feel gloomy, or we become swept up in a hurricane of unexpected emotion.

Part of the wisdom to being in a world which is upside down and back to front right now, is knowing that it will pass. Whatever is happening you can navigate it in your own helpful way and at your own healthy pace. 

Here’s something that might help:
This week, maybe set the intention to Travel the Storm. Sometimes the biggest pains we can feel are from trying to control things that can’t be controlled, change things (and people) that can’t be changed, or resisting the things we know will happen anyway.

Whether it’s a looming redundancy, a loss we have to endure or a person not saying what we need, sometimes we have to find ways to accept that it is what it is. That doesn’t mean rolling over and always taking it on the chin; there will definitely be days when you need to say it as you see it. And there is always space to feel what you feel and take care of yourself. But we won’t always – nor should we – be able to influence everyone to be who we need them to be.

Finding ways to lean in to being then – rather than doing – whilst uncomfortable at first, can help. We know that the eye of the storm is often calmest, so sometimes it’s better to create space away from all that’s happening. You can’t always protect yourself from the storm, but it can be helpful to reach out to those who can help. Rather than numb out and turn away from all that’s happening, sometimes it is better to look it right in the eye. Do what you can with what you have from where you are.

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Copyright Delphi Ellis 2021

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