Monday Mojo – Change the Recipe

Do you ever find you get stuck with the same routine?

It happens easily, and it’s not always a bad thing. It’s good to know where we are, what we like and what we’re doing. 

But sometimes, we fall into a rut.
We do the same things. 
We wear the same things. 
We eat the same things. 
And it’s not always because money gets in the way of trying something new. 

Change is scary. When things feel like they’re out of our comfort zone, we might manouvre ourself out of it. We turn down an invite. We put back that sparkly top on the rack. We order the same thing from the menu.  But if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. 

This week, set the intention to Change The Recipe.  Start to think about where you’ve fallen into a routine which might not be working for you, and what you can do to spice things up a bit. Add some flavour to your life by saying yes to an invite, or try a recipe at home that you’ve not tried before. And if it feels a bit scary, acknowledge that – feel the fear and, if the change feels promising, do it anyway. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Feed Your Soul

When you’ve had a hard day, how do you take care of yourself?

The world feels more intense when things aren’t going our way. If someone’s been unkind, or we feel we fell short in some way, it can knock the wind right out of our sails.  Even on the days when you feel you’ve done your best, somehow it can feel like it still wasn’t good enough. 

When the world challenges us, we might stop doing things we know are good for us – like eating lunch; it falls by the wayside.  
Becaude we forget. 
Because it’s a chore.
Because we don’t have time.
And we might resort to other ways – like reaching for the Jaffa Cakes – just because.  Then we feel bad for that too. 

It’s on days like this we can turn our attention to things that, rather than bring us down, can reach down inside and lift us up.  It’s not always about food, it might be something that nourishes you in a different way. 

This week, set the intention to Feed Your Soul. It might be that you rediscover a favourite meal, and enjoy preparing and making it for yourself. Perhaps you can  reconnect with a hobby that you’ve had to put on hold, that lights a bit of sparkle inside of you. Or even get in touch with a friend, and watch something on Netflix together. Whatever it is, it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Replenish from the inside out with things that can help you feel warm and brighter again. Because you deserve this.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Delay Your Yes

How do you feel when you say no?

If you got that pinch in your stomach just thinking about it, you’ll recognise the sense of anxiety when we try to tell someone they’re not getting what they want. So, we might cave, and let them get their way.

It’s not wrong, because it’s instinctive.  What I mean is, there’s probably a good reason for saying yes when you mean no.

As children we might have said no a lot. We might have come across as defiant if, say, we didn’t want to eat our dinner.

For saying no, we might have got into trouble. Sometimes (for example), the punishment might be no pudding if you didn’t clear your plate. You might not have got into real trouble, but the message was “you’re going to miss out on something if you stick with that no”.

And, it came back at us too. We want to go out on a school night? The answer was probably – “No”. “Can I have some sweets?” Again, the answer probably – “No.”

So, from an early age we learn that saying no has consequences. We associate it with rejection and denial.

Fast forward to being an adult, and we carry this and other programming with us. We find ways to say yes to people, because we don’t want to pay the price. As a result we can become what’s known as “people pleasers”:
We say yes when we mean no.
We do things we don’t want to do.
We spend time with people we’d rather not.

We need to make our wellbeing a priority. We need to look at our yes’s, and put them on hold.

This week, set the intention to Delay Your Yes. Find ways to put off an answer, even if people are pressing you for one. You can say things like “that doesn’t work for me today, maybe tomorrow?” or “I’d like some time to think about that, can I let you know?” Or, “can you text/email me with the details and I’ll get back to you.” But remember if it’s not in your best interests, if it’s unhealthy or steals your mojo, you have a right to say no, without explaining yourself.

 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Pay for a Dream Interpretation

What does your dream mean?

The subject of dreams fascinates people, and I’ve been working with dreams professionally for over a decade, including appearances in the media, helping people explore and understand their meanings.  There are a number of different theories about why we dream and what they mean, so I work in an integrated way to help people decipher the messages within them.

If you pay for a dream interpretation by email, you’ll receive an in-depth analysis of the content you share with me, which can offer you food for thought about the dream you’ve had. If you have a dream you’d like to explore, this service is available by email for £20 per dream – just click on the button below to make your payment.

Whether it’s a recurring dream or one you’ve had only once. You’ll also receive top tips and guidance appropriate to the content of your message. You can share as much or as little detail as you can remember, it can be a current dream or one you had years ago.

Delphi sent my [dream] analysis via email. The analysis itself was so accurate and made a lot of sense to me, and has helped me to resolve and make sense of some things that have reoccurred frequently in my dreams.” L.

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When you pay, you should receive an automated reply and further details on how to send your dream for analysis.  Once you send your dream across, you’ll receive your interpretation within 2 working days.

Everyone is different so what a dream means to one person, can be different to the next. I aim to offer a professional exploration of your dream, based on the information you provide, so the more you feel able to share, the more in-depth this will be.

If you have a dream you’d like to explore, you can pay to receive an interpretation by email for just £20 per dream.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Pay using the button below
  2. You should receive a confirmation email confirming your payment has been received, and instructions on how to send your dream.
  3. Your dream will then be analysed and you’ll receive an in-depth exploration based on the information you provide,  during office hours.

Ts and Cs below.

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Only one dream per email/£10 per person. This service is subject to availability and can be withdrawn at any time.  Remember, you’re the best person to decide ultimately what your dream means.

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A rest is as good as a change – using mindfulness for managing uncertainty

How do you feel about change?

We like to be in control, generally speaking. We like to feel prepared, to know what’s going to happen next, and – if change is coming – we want to be on the right side of it. 

In the Buddhist teachings, there is a lot of talk about change, specifically about accepting the ‘nature of impermanence’ – that nothing stays the same.  

It’s our attachment to the belief that things ‘should’ be a certain way, that causes us suffering. If (as an example) six months ago I had declared we must never speak of Brexit again in order for me to be okay, I would be a heap on the carpet right now. So we have to find another way to be okay. 

We can move towards a place of accepting what is, rather than how it should be. That doesn’t mean putting up with things we can change, but simply acknowledging that right now it’s like this.

This is where mindfulness can help. 

If you’re struggling with change right now (or lack of it), find your way into this present moment. Rather than thinking about the past or the future, and getting tangled in thoughts about how it used to be, or how you wish it was, simply notice that’s where your thoughts are taking you. Then bring your awareness back to your breath, because we don’t breathe in to the past or future. The breath is here now.

Simply observe the rise and fall of your tummy or chest, and rest into being here. Allow yourself these mindful moments, whenever you need to feel more at peace.

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Quiet Club – monthly meditation meetings for like-minded people.

©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Feel the Connection

Today is Blue Monday, or as the Samaritans are calling it “Brew Monday”. An opportunity to chat with a friend over a good old cuppa. So, how many people does it take to make a cup of tea?

I promise this isn’t one of those “how many people does it take to change a lightbulb” jokes. If you’ve ever attended one of my mindfulness classes, you’ll know this is a question I ask the group. Together, we sit and work out how many people are involved in bringing you your morning drink.

So, let’s explore it for a moment:
There’s the people who tended the soil.
The people who picked the plants.
Those who packed and shipped them.
The ones that delivered them the other end.
Then there’s those who stacked them on the shelves, and served you at the checkout.
That’s a lot of people. A lot of people who made your morning cuppa possible.

The reason I do this, is because when we’re feeling flat, or we’ve lost our mojo, it’s easy to feel like we’re on our own. The world can get smaller, and that takes its toll. (When we’re so busy it also means we miss opportunities to bring ourselves back to centre – little things like resting whilst having a cup of tea).

As human beings, we need to belong. (I have a whole chapter in my new book hopefully out later this year, on this topic). It can affect our health at the deepest level. And that’s why, we need to explore what feeling part of something means for us.

This week, set the intention to Feel The Connection. Where have you felt connected in the past; where were you, and what were you doing? What would it take to feel connected again? Then spend some time thinking about how many people make your day possible, even though you can’t see them. The person who collects trolleys. People who work at 24 hour garages. Whoever invented toilet roll, windscreen wipers, coat hangers.  See how connected you feel with the world around you, and remember you make their world possible too. Maybe mull it over whilst you sit down, rest a while and have a nice cup of tea.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Mindfulness Courses in Biggleswade

If you’re intrigued about mindfulness, and want to know more about the benefits, there are two events coming up in Biggleswade you might like to join.

On 26th January 2019, there is a two hour Introduction to Mindfulness as part of Quiet Club, a new monthly meditation group starting in the area. In this session you’ll receive a warm welcome, a hot drink on arrival, and then learn more about this tried-and-tested way of life, proven to reduce stress and improve sleep. The cost is just £20 per person, it’s open to men and women, aged 18+, and no previous experience of mindfulness necessary.

Attendees will also receive free online access to the Mindfulness Starter Kit for 28 days, along with a discount code for future (evening) Quiet Clubs.

Date: 26th January 2019, 10am to 12pm. Cost: £20 per person. To book click here

On 28th February 2019, there is a six week mindfulness course starting in Biggleswade. During this course you’ll learn more about the topic and how you can apply it in every day life. Whether you’re sat on the bus, or having your evening meal, find out how mindfulness can help you manage your mind and lead a calmer life.

Date: 28th February 2019 for 6 weeks, 6.15pm to 7.45pm. To book click here

*Early Bird Discount Available* – book before the end of January using code BW10 and receive £10 off the 6 week course price.

Got a question? Send your enquiry in the form below.

Dates subject to availability.

Monday Mojo – Treasure Your Energy

How is your energy?

At the start of each week, and especially at the commencement of a new year, there’s a pressure to begin with a full tank of positive mojo.
We straighten our tiaras. 
We create the to do list. 
We aspire to get more done, even if it means we tap into our energy reserves. 

The thing is, we don’t have a limitless supply of energy, no matter how many Red Bulls we drink or how many kilos of kale we endure. Sometimes, we think we’ll just rest later on, but the reality is we have to conserve our energy now, in order to see the future benefit.

This is why it’s so important to play the long game – to think about what your future needs, keeping in mind what you do now. It also includes choosing your battles carefully, deciding what really deserves your time and attention. Like being aware of someone or something that tries to steal what energy you do have.  

This week, set the intention to Treasure Your Energy. Imagine your energy as something of precious value, like a treasured object or an asset that needs to last you a lifetime. Then ask yourself if you’re spending that energy in a way that protects it, nurtures it and means it will go the distance. Do you need to pace yourself, or prioritise what – or who – gets your time and attention; only share the energy you have, if you feel it’s in your very best interest. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Put It Down

How rested do you feel? It’s a genuine question, as although for some people today is their first day back at work, for many they never actually stopped.

Have you noticed how we always have something to do? The problem is, even when you’ve already got enough on your plate, you can find you’re adding more all the time. The load never seems to get any lighter. 

In ‘The Book of Awakening’ Mark Nepo tells a funny story of someone who refuses to make several trips from the car whenever he goes shopping, instead he tries to carry everything in one go. On one occasion, his friend goes to the shop and buys gallons of paint. Instead of taking one out at a time, he carries all the tins awkwardly towards the house. He just about makes it to the front door, loses his grip, slips and finds himself covered in paint.  There are times when we need to just lighten the load. 

This week, set the intention to Put It Down. Whether it’s something you’ve carried in to the New Year you meant to let go, or have found yourself taking on too much already, take a step back, rest for a while and bring yourself back to centre.  Talk to someone if it helps to spread the weight of a worry, or simply set aside time for yourself to help you focus on what really counts. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

New Year Mojo – Clear the Path

How do you feel about 2019?

It’s about now the pressure really starts to mount to make new year’s resolutions, and set goals with good intentions.

To try that new diet.
To get more exercise.
To better yourself in one way or another.

The ‘New Year, New You’ crowd gets louder, and genuinely it can be exhausting.

That doesn’t mean change isn’t important – or impossible.  Just that recognising the key to achieving positive results is making space for it.
Moving at a pace that feels right for you. 
Knowing what you want, and what you don’t.

At December’s Serenity, we came together in quiet contemplation with a view to creating a vision of what the new year might bring, based on the insights 2018 had provided – I described this as ‘Defining Your Blueprint’.

Through mindfulness meditation, women held space together to reflect, and consider what they will take in to the year ahead.  They said it gave them hope, clarity and insight, whilst at the same time giving them permission to put their needs up front.  (If this sounds helpful, you can find out how to purchase that online resources pack for yourself here – subject to availability).

Even if you don’t know where you’re going just yet, allow yourself to make way in your mind for something wonderful.

This New Year, set the intention to Clear the Path.  Get ready to say goodbye to things that no longer work for you.  Throw out clothes you’ll never wear, shred paperwork you’ll never need, and  make room in your diary for the things you really want.  And, instead of making resolutions, create your ground rules – your personal boundaries for the year ahead (you might like my article on the topic here).

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2018

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