Hello and Welcome

Welcome to my website, thank you for stopping by.

These pages tell you how to access services which have been carefully designed to help you find your mojo and get your sparkle back.

Our mental health is as important as our physical health and we now know that one can have an impact on the other. But many people still find it difficult to slow down, talk about their feelings or make their wellbeing a priority. Talking with someone impartial can help.

I help people find their mojo and get their sparkle back, often after a difficult period in their lives.

I’m Delphi Ellis, a Qualified Mental Health Therapist and Wellbeing Trainer – Helping You Sparkle™.

I offer talking therapies, workshops and classes promoting positive mental health – my aim is to help you reconnect with your energy and enthusiasm, I call this ‘your mojo‘.  This includes working with people often after a difficult situation in their lives, like a bereavement or relationship breakdown.

The services I provide also enables people to positively manage their mental health, particularly if they’ve been experiencing periods of stress, anxiety and depression.  As a Mindfulness Practitioner I blend the philosophy of mindfulness in to the work I do, offering an holistic, integrated and tailored approach to helping someone find their way forward.  .

As someone who has worked with and supported many women dealing with challenging situations like breast cancer, domestic abuse and pregnancy, some of my services I offer are exclusively female.  I also help busy working women find time in their schedules for some much needed self-care, through my group Serenity, 

Some of my services are re-directed through different websites, so that they provide a dedicated experience for you in topics I specialise in, like sleep.  I also have online services and resources available to buy. Take a look here.  When you subscribe to my mailing list ‘Monday Mojo™’, you get free access to resources in the Members Area like the Sparkle Repair Kit™.  You can also get in touch here.

Services are available in 1-1 and as group sessions. Private and Corporate clients are welcome.

Mindfulness Class: Delphi, A HUGE THANK YOU. I really have learned so much and enjoyed every week.

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Professional Career 

I have supported people professionally since 2002. I started my therapeutic work in bereavement, helping those bereaved by murder and suicide, attending coroner’s court, and more recently trained with the National Homicide Service.  

In 2004, I also established a unique website dedicated to Pregnancy Mental Health, following my own experience of depression during pregnancy.

With one of my specialist areas being sleep and dreams, my career includes an extensive TV and media profile, with regular appearances as the Dream Expert on ITV’s This Morning and presenting the Guide to Sleep on Daybreak. I have also featured in Spirit & Destiny, Pregnancy and Birth and Natural Health magazines, and featured on radio programmes including BBC 2’s weekend/bank holiday extravaganzas with Aled Jones.  You can find out more about my media appearances here.

Qualifications and Training

My qualifications and training include Therapeutic Counselling, Delivering Adult Learning, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Support for Insomnia, Mental Health First Aid and Mindfulness. I am also a Women’s Advocate, raising awareness of situations which predominantly affect Women’s Mental Health, like Domestic Abuse and Pregnancy.

With Delphi’s help, I have a new perspective on life and the strength to face new and challenging things in a positive way.” B.

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Online Services and Resources

If you’re nervous about attending an event or booking a 1-1, you might like some of my resources and services available to purchase and access online.

These include:

Click here for The Mindfulness Starter Kit – This pack is available via my Kindfully website, dedicated to the topic of mindfulness.  It includes guided meditations along with activities to try in the comfort of your own home.

Click here Mindfulness for Dreamy Sleep – This pack is available via my website dedicated to the subject of dreams and sleep.  It includes an eGuide on how to keep a dream diary as well as a 10 minute guided meditation.

Click here for The Serenity Self-Care Toolkit – This pack is available via my Women in Serenity™ website, discussing topics women understand, and dedicated to promoting self-care through mindfulness.  It includes a self-care planner, calendar and a 10 minute guided meditation.

Individual guided meditations  – individual guided meditation recordings from 1 minute to 10 minutes, ideal for people on the go.  Introductory prices start from just 50p!

Dream Interpretation via email – receive an in-depth exploration of your dream based on the detail you provide.

You might also like:

Monday Mojo™ – a free, weekly email sent straight to your inbox containing feel-good vibes for the week ahead, an instant access to the Sparkle Repair Kit™, a small but mighty eGuide designed to help you get your sparkle back.

Please click the links above to find out more about each of these packs, or send your enquiry below.  For details of face to face services I provide including workshops and 1-1 sessions, click here.

Please note that packs can be withdrawn at any time, services are subject to availability.  Terms and conditions apply, see relevant pack for details.

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Workshops and Events

Forthcoming Events, Workshops and Classes

Serenity – products, services, events and resources dedicated to rest and relaxation for busy women

Relaxation Classes – how to learn Mindfulness via Kindfully (Biggleswade and MK): click here for dates and details

Rise Workshops – assertiveness training for awakening women

Shine Workshops – stress management for busy women

Rise and Shine – combination of the above!

Brilliant Resilience – workplace wellbeing for men and women

Workshops with Smile 🙂 MK, click here to enquire:

  • Stress and Anxiety Management (various dates 2017/18)
  • Relaxation through Mindfulness (various dates 2017/18)

Other workshops available

  • Mental Health Basics (for Managers)
  • Mindfulness at Work
  • Loss and Bereavement Basics (all staff)

For details of any of the above, or to book a tailored programme for your workplace, complete the form below.

One of the best training sessions I’ve attended in years. Very well presented, Delphi is a natural!

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Delphi’s calm manner and clear-speaking meant she connected with the audience and made us feel that we were able to ask questions without feeling conscious. We can’t wait for Delphi to return again.” Amanda Coles, President SSEWI

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In the media

I am  a qualified therapist and mental health and wellbeing trainer, teaching effective strategies for rest and relaxation.

I started my helping career supporting the bereaved over 15 years ago.  I specifically worked with those bereaved by murder and suicide, attending coroner’s court and inquests.  I now offer private therapy and wellbeing training services through the Helping You Sparkle™ website, promoting positive mental health.

I have enjoyed a TV and media career talking about the subjects I am passionate about, including healthy sleep and dreams.  To pay for a dream interpretation by email, click here.

Qualifications and Training

My qualifications and training include Therapeutic Counselling, Delivering Adult Learning, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, help with Insomnia, Mental Health First Aid and Mindfulness.  I am a Women’s Advocate and raise awareness of Domestic Abuse and Women’s Mental Health (particularly in pregnancy).

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Media Appearances: BBC Radio: BBC Radio 2, BBC Radio 1 Xtra, BBC WM, BBC Shropshire, BBC Coventry, BBC Three Counties, BBC Radio 6 with George Lamb, BBC Suffolk Breakfast Show, BBC Radio Cambridgeshire Drive Time, BBC Radio Leeds Drive Time, BBC Tees, BBC Radio Shropshire, BBC Radio Scotland, BBC Radio 4, Woman’s Hour, BBC London with Sunny & Shay and on the Eddie Nestor show, Talk Sport, Beacon Radio, Hallam FM, Original 106 FM, Gemini FM, WLR FM, XFM, The Psychic Show (LBC 97.3), My Spirit Radio, Bridge Radio, Red FM

ITV Television: ITV’s This Morning, Day reak – Presenter of The Guide to Sleep, Psychic TV, GMTV, The Wright Stuff, LK Today (Lorraine), Consultant to SO Television for My Lovely Audience (Graham Norton)

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Featured work

Dreams Features: Daily Express, Mens Health magazine, Practical Parenting & Pregnancy Magazine, Natural Health, Soul & Spirit magazine, Huffington Post, Ante-natal Depression features: Guardian (G2), Sunday Express, Pregnancy, Baby & You, Daily Express, Daily Telegraph, Pregnancy & Birth magazine, Prima Baby magazine, Practical Parenting, Columnist for Spirit & Destiny Magazine, Contributor to Talk Mum, Contributor to Silent Voices, Columnist for Spirit Force Magazine

During 2018, I developed the training programme, and was the specialist lead trainer, for the Cruse More than Words project, developing peer support groups for bereaved people, around the country.

PR Events

Dreams Bed Company, Maybelline New York, Sky + HD (article featured in Daily Telegraph), Johnson’s Beauty: Dreamy Skin, Snow Leopard Trust

“Spotlights”

Embody Magazine, Your Destiny Magazine, Psychic Voice, The Psychic News

Awards

Spiritual Connextions Awards for Best Service to Others

Regional Finalist for the Health and Social Care Awards for Mental Health and Wellbeing

Nominations

Women Who Keep Bedfordshire Safer Awards 2018

Community Champion 2018

I also work for a charity in my spare time which offers a unique transport service for cancer patients.  This won the Queens Award for Voluntary Service in 2014.

Monday Mojo – Ditch The Scales

How do you feel about comparisons?

It’s fair to say, we live in a world of them and, for many, it’s taking its toll. 

With social media and relentless advertising on the telly, telling us what we should buy, how much we should weigh, and why we should strive to be perfect, it’s easy to feel like a race you can never win.  And sometimes you might feel like you never quite measure up.  

When we unknowingly compare ourselves to others, it’s like trying to balance a set of scales that are weighed in someone else’s favour. 

If you’ve also grown up with a voice inside your head that tells you to push harder, faster, further whatever the cost, because of a need to make someone else proud of you, you can equally feel like you’re striving for someone else’s goal. The balance of power shifts in someone else’s direction, and you may feel like you’re not in control. 

This is why it’s so important to find your version of balance, and what that looks like for you, rather than trying to achieve someone else’s. 

This week, set the intention to Ditch the Scales. Do away with unhealthy comparisons and decide what balance looks like for you.  It might be walks in the park, or conversations over a cuppa. If you’re struggling with direction, know you have everything inside you, to get where you want to be. If you’re realising you’re living someone else’s dream, ask yourself whose life are you livingand imagine the life you want to live. Do things because you want to do them, not because someone else is telling you what to think and do. And above all, don’t let other people’s idea of happiness steal yours.

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©️Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Level the Playing Field

Do you ever feel life is unfair?

There will be times when things just don’t go your way.
You make all the right moves.
Take all the right steps.
And somehow still find yourself in a situation you never saw coming. 

Occasionally we realise we took a wrong turn. Sometimes you’ll see an opportunity to learn something new. But then there are times when it’s other people not doing what they said, or being who you thought they were. 

We often take the “at fault position”, automatically believing we are to blame when things don’t work out; yet time often shows us that’s not how it is. But because we want to see the best in everyone, we turn a blind eye.  
Give more chances.
And hope for the best.  
If that’s the case, it might be time to change the game. 

This week, set the intention to Level the Playing Field. What do you need in your life right now to bring yourself back to centre? What conversations do you need to have, to find yourself on an even keel? You might surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, or create opportunities to enjoy peace and quiet. You might decide to do more of the things that bring the light back into your life, where there’s been some darkness for a while, and if someone has shown their true colours, give yourself time to think and breathe, before you say what needs to be said. But, whatever you do, don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Reset the Moment

How are you finding 2019 so far?

At Saturday’s Serenity we reflected on how quickly we’ve arrived in March, and used the time and space to bring ourselves back to centre. We talked about how the year’s gone so far and, if we’ve steered off course a little, talked about how to reset so that we can aim for where we want to be. 

Finding balance in a busy world is hard:
There’s always work to be done. 
Places to be. 
People to please. 

And then there’s all the plans we’ve made. The hopes we’ve had. The dreams we hope to fulfil. It can be overwhelming. 

This is why, now and then, it’s helps to take a step back, and start again. 

This week, set the intention to Reset the Moment. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by life right now, or how quickly time flies, remember it’s just as important when you’re busy to rest and recharge your batteries.  To pause. Take a breath. Reconnect. And then carry on. Allow yourself time and space this week to take as many pauses as you need, and then when you’re ready,  take one step at a time.  Rest, but don’t quit.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Savour the Journey

What’s the pace of your life right now?

Sometimes, when life is busy, we can find ourselves on a different path, than we planned to travel down.
People or events may steer us in an unexpected direction.
We get swept up.
We lose our way.

Sometimes that’s not always a bad thing, as long as you’re on board with it. 

But you may find yourself regretting decisions you’ve made and beating yourself up, even though at the time they felt like the right – or only – thing to do. 

Life starts to feel like a fairground ride that’s getting faster.  It’s unpredictable, a bit scary and eventually can wear you out. 

It’s not always easy to pin-point the exact moment things changed direction, especially if you’ve been busy putting other’s happiness before your own.

This is why pausing to define what’s motivating you, or driving your decision making, can be helpful, and prevent you from burning out

This week, set the intention to Savour The Journey. Take some time to reflect on your path so far, and celebrate how far you’ve come.  Decide what’s guiding your decision making right now, and if that’s driving you forward to where you want to be. Then think about what gets your motor running, and whether or not you’re doing enough of what you enjoy.

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©️Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Let it Simmer

Have you noticed that life has its own timescale?

In a world where we can get whatever we want (materially) at the touch of a button, it makes sense that we might find waiting a chore.  Whether it’s to find out if you got that job, or if the date you’ve seen is going to call you back, life can sometimes feel like it’s put us on hold. And other people might expect we live to their timescales too. 

It’s easy to think we have to make big decisions when things are taking their time, or people are pushing us too hard. We might feel compelled to say something. We might have a knee-jerk reaction, and do something we don’t mean. We might just write it all off, altogether. 

This is why, when we’ve done all we can to ensure our own success, sometimes we have to decide to just sit, and wait. 

This week, set the intention to Let It Simmer. If you’re feeling frustrated that someone isn’t working to your timescales, remember that sometimes things turn out better when we wait. If someone is pushing you, create some space that allows you to take your time, and if you can communicate what you need. In the meantime, create a plan of what you really want, and by when. Use any time left waiting, as an opportunity to take care of yourself, in a way that’s meaningful, without feeling like you’re at someone else’s mercy to be happy. Do what you can, with what you have, from where you are. And then let everything else flow and fall into place. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Change the Recipe

Do you ever find you get stuck with the same routine?

It happens easily, and it’s not always a bad thing. It’s good to know where we are, what we like and what we’re doing. 

But sometimes, we fall into a rut.
We do the same things. 
We wear the same things. 
We eat the same things. 
And it’s not always because money gets in the way of trying something new. 

Change is scary. When things feel like they’re out of our comfort zone, we might manouvre ourself out of it. We turn down an invite. We put back that sparkly top on the rack. We order the same thing from the menu.  But if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. 

This week, set the intention to Change The Recipe.  Start to think about where you’ve fallen into a routine which might not be working for you, and what you can do to spice things up a bit. Add some flavour to your life by saying yes to an invite, or try a recipe at home that you’ve not tried before. And if it feels a bit scary, acknowledge that – feel the fear and, if the change feels promising, do it anyway. 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Feed Your Soul

When you’ve had a hard day, how do you take care of yourself?

The world feels more intense when things aren’t going our way. If someone’s been unkind, or we feel we fell short in some way, it can knock the wind right out of our sails.  Even on the days when you feel you’ve done your best, somehow it can feel like it still wasn’t good enough. 

When the world challenges us, we might stop doing things we know are good for us – like eating lunch; it falls by the wayside.  
Becaude we forget. 
Because it’s a chore.
Because we don’t have time.
And we might resort to other ways – like reaching for the Jaffa Cakes – just because.  Then we feel bad for that too. 

It’s on days like this we can turn our attention to things that, rather than bring us down, can reach down inside and lift us up.  It’s not always about food, it might be something that nourishes you in a different way. 

This week, set the intention to Feed Your Soul. It might be that you rediscover a favourite meal, and enjoy preparing and making it for yourself. Perhaps you can  reconnect with a hobby that you’ve had to put on hold, that lights a bit of sparkle inside of you. Or even get in touch with a friend, and watch something on Netflix together. Whatever it is, it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Replenish from the inside out with things that can help you feel warm and brighter again. Because you deserve this.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Delay Your Yes

How do you feel when you say no?

If you got that pinch in your stomach just thinking about it, you’ll recognise the sense of anxiety when we try to tell someone they’re not getting what they want. So, we might cave, and let them get their way.

It’s not wrong, because it’s instinctive.  What I mean is, there’s probably a good reason for saying yes when you mean no.

As children we might have said no a lot. We might have come across as defiant if, say, we didn’t want to eat our dinner.

For saying no, we might have got into trouble. Sometimes (for example), the punishment might be no pudding if you didn’t clear your plate. You might not have got into real trouble, but the message was “you’re going to miss out on something if you stick with that no”.

And, it came back at us too. We want to go out on a school night? The answer was probably – “No”. “Can I have some sweets?” Again, the answer probably – “No.”

So, from an early age we learn that saying no has consequences. We associate it with rejection and denial.

Fast forward to being an adult, and we carry this and other programming with us. We find ways to say yes to people, because we don’t want to pay the price. As a result we can become what’s known as “people pleasers”:
We say yes when we mean no.
We do things we don’t want to do.
We spend time with people we’d rather not.

We need to make our wellbeing a priority. We need to look at our yes’s, and put them on hold.

This week, set the intention to Delay Your Yes. Find ways to put off an answer, even if people are pressing you for one. You can say things like “that doesn’t work for me today, maybe tomorrow?” or “I’d like some time to think about that, can I let you know?” Or, “can you text/email me with the details and I’ll get back to you.” But remember if it’s not in your best interests, if it’s unhealthy or steals your mojo, you have a right to say no, without explaining yourself.

 

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Pay for a Dream Interpretation

What does your dream mean?

The subject of dreams fascinates people, and I’ve been working with dreams professionally for over a decade, including appearances in the media, helping people explore and understand their meanings.  There are a number of different theories about why we dream and what they mean, so I work in an integrated way to help people decipher the messages within them.

If you pay for a dream interpretation by email, you’ll receive an in-depth analysis of the content you share with me, which can offer you food for thought about the dream you’ve had. If you have a dream you’d like to explore, this service is available by email for £20 per dream – just click on the button below to make your payment.

Whether it’s a recurring dream or one you’ve had only once. You’ll also receive top tips and guidance appropriate to the content of your message. You can share as much or as little detail as you can remember, it can be a current dream or one you had years ago.

Delphi sent my [dream] analysis via email. The analysis itself was so accurate and made a lot of sense to me, and has helped me to resolve and make sense of some things that have reoccurred frequently in my dreams.” L.

When you pay, you should receive an automated reply and further details on how to send your dream for analysis.  Once you send your dream across, you’ll receive your interpretation within 2 working days.

Everyone is different so what a dream means to one person, can be different to the next. I aim to offer a professional exploration of your dream, based on the information you provide, so the more you feel able to share, the more in-depth this will be.

If you have a dream you’d like to explore, you can pay to receive an interpretation by email for just £20 per dream.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Pay using the button below
  2. You should receive a confirmation email confirming your payment has been received, and instructions on how to send your dream.
  3. Your dream will then be analysed and you’ll receive an in-depth exploration based on the information you provide,  during office hours.

Ts and Cs below.

Terms and conditions

Only one dream per email/£20 per person. This service is subject to availability and can be withdrawn at any time.  Remember, you’re the best person to decide ultimately what your dream means.

© Copyright Delphi Ellis 2006 – 2019

A rest is as good as a change – using mindfulness for managing uncertainty

How do you feel about change?

We like to be in control, generally speaking. We like to feel prepared, to know what’s going to happen next, and – if change is coming – we want to be on the right side of it. 

In the Buddhist teachings, there is a lot of talk about change, specifically about accepting the ‘nature of impermanence’ – that nothing stays the same.  

It’s our attachment to the belief that things ‘should’ be a certain way, that causes us suffering. If (as an example) six months ago I had declared we must never speak of Brexit again in order for me to be okay, I would be a heap on the carpet right now. So we have to find another way to be okay. 

We can move towards a place of accepting what is, rather than how it should be. That doesn’t mean putting up with things we can change, but simply acknowledging that right now it’s like this.

This is where mindfulness can help. 

If you’re struggling with change right now (or lack of it), find your way into this present moment. Rather than thinking about the past or the future, and getting tangled in thoughts about how it used to be, or how you wish it was, simply notice that’s where your thoughts are taking you. Then bring your awareness back to your breath, because we don’t breathe in to the past or future. The breath is here now.

Simply observe the rise and fall of your tummy or chest, and rest into being here. Allow yourself these mindful moments, whenever you need to feel more at peace.

You might also like:

Quiet Club – monthly meditation meetings for like-minded people.

©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

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