Hello and Welcome

Welcome to my website, thank you for stopping by.

These pages tell you how to access services which have been carefully designed to help you find your mojo and get your sparkle back.

Mental health is as important as physical health, and we now know that one can have an impact on the other. But many people still find it difficult to slow down, talk about their feelings or make their wellbeing a priority. Talking with someone impartial can help.

I’m Delphi Ellis, a Qualified Mental Health Therapist and Wellbeing Trainer – Helping You Sparkle™. I help people find their forward, often after a difficult period in their lives. The information below tells you more about me, the services I provide and my professional career.

I offer talking therapies, workshops and classes promoting positive mental health – my aim is to help you reconnect with your energy and enthusiasm – I call this ‘your mojo‘.  You might feel like you want to get your sparkle back following a difficult situation in your life, like after bereavement or relationship breakdown.

The services I provide also enable and empower people to positively manage their mental health, particularly if they’ve been experiencing periods of stress, anxiety and depression.  As a Mindfulness Practitioner I blend the philosophy of mindfulness in to the work I do, offering an holistic, integrated and tailored approach to helping someone find their way forward.

As someone who has worked with and supported many women dealing with challenging situations like breast cancer, domestic abuse and pregnancy, some of my services I offer are exclusively female. You might like my website Let’s Talk Lady Business.

As well as 1-1 services,  I also offer group workshops and have online resources available to buy. Take a look here.

When you subscribe to my mailing list ‘Monday Mojo™’, you get free access to resources in the Members Area like the Sparkle Repair Kit™.  

You can also get in touch here.

Private and Corporate clients are welcome.

Mindfulness Class: Delphi, A HUGE THANK YOU. I really have learned so much and enjoyed every week.

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Professional Career 

I have supported people professionally since 2002, where I started my therapeutic work in bereavement. I helped those bereaved by murder and suicide, including attending inquests at coroner’s court, and have been trained by the National Homicide Service.

When the time was right for them, my clients wanted to find their way forward, and get their sparkle back; this became the foundation of the work I do today. I listen to what my clients need, helping them find their way back to centre or towards a ‘new normal’.

During 2018, I designed and delivered as the specialist Lead Trainer for the Cruse ‘More than Words’ project, developing peer support groups for bereaved people around the U.K.. In 2019, I also designed and became the Lead Trainer for the ‘You Behind The Uniform’ project, aimed at discussing bereavement and wellbeing, with front line emergency services personnel.

In 2004, I established a unique website dedicated to Pregnancy Mental Health, following my own experience of depression and anxiety during pregnancy. This began a journey of promoting better mental health for women, including supporting those escaping domestic abuse. I have featured in several popular magazines including Pregnancy and Birth and Natural Health magazines, and featured on radio programmes like Radio 4’s Women’s Hour. (You can find out more about my media appearances here).

In 2019, I developed Let’s Talk Lady Business as a positive platform which aims to improve the global conversation encouraging fairness, choice and equality in female health and wellbeing, through awareness and education.

I am involved with and volunteer for a number of projects which support work in the local community. In 2018, I was nominated as one of the Women who Make Bedfordshire Safer Awards, held by the Office of the Police and Crime Commissioner. I was also nominated as a Community Champion as part of a nationwide competition, and won Volunteer of the Year Cohesion Award in 2019, for services to the community.

Qualifications and Training

My qualifications and training include Therapeutic Counselling, Delivering Adult Learning, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Support for Insomnia, Mental Health First Aid and Mindfulness. I am also a Women’s Advocate, raising awareness of situations which predominantly affect Women’s Mental Health, like Domestic Abuse and Pregnancy.

With Delphi’s help, I have a new perspective on life and the strength to face new and challenging things in a positive way.” B.

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Online Services and Resources

If you’re nervous about attending an event or booking a 1-1, you might like some of my resources and services available to purchase and access online. I also offer telephone appointments for £25 (for 50 minutes) – initial consultations are free.

These include:

Click here for The Mindfulness Starter Kit – This pack is available via my Kindfully website, dedicated to the topic of mindfulness.  It includes guided meditations along with activities to try in the comfort of your own home.

Click here Mindfulness for Dreamy Sleep – This pack is available via my website dedicated to the subject of dreams and sleep.  It includes an eGuide on how to keep a dream diary as well as a 10 minute guided meditation.

Click here for The Serenity Self-Care Toolkit – This pack is available via my Women in Serenity™ website, discussing topics women understand, and dedicated to promoting self-care through mindfulness.  It includes a self-care planner, calendar and a 10 minute guided meditation.

Individual guided meditations  – individual guided meditation recordings from 1 minute to 10 minutes, ideal for people on the go.  Introductory prices start from just 50p!

Dream Interpretation via email – receive an in-depth exploration of your dream based on the detail you provide.

Telephone Appointments – receive a 1-1 session for talking therapy over the ‘phone for just £25 (for 50 minutes).

You might also like:

Monday Mojo™ – a free, weekly email sent straight to your inbox containing feel-good vibes for the week ahead, an instant access to the Sparkle Repair Kit™, a small but mighty eGuide designed to help you get your sparkle back.

Please click the links above to find out more about each of these packs, or send your enquiry below.  For details of face to face services I provide including workshops and 1-1 sessions, click here.

Please note that packs can be withdrawn at any time, services are subject to availability.  Terms and conditions apply, see relevant pack for details.

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Workshops and Events

Did you know according to Time to Change, 95% of people feeling sick with stress, will phone in sick with another reason (like headaches or stomach upsets)?  For training on mental health awareness, get in touch.

This page includes training and events I offer.


Book a Speaker

If you’re hosting an event and would like me to deliver training or a talk on my specialist areas please get in touch.


Workshops

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Delphi’s calm manner and clear-speaking meant she connected with the audience and made us feel that we were able to ask questions without feeling conscious. We can’t wait for Delphi to return again.” Amanda Coles, President SSEWI

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In the media

I’m Delphi Ellis – a Qualified Therapist, Mental Health Speaker, Mindfulness Practitioner and Well-being Trainer – Helping You Sparkle™.

I help people find their mojo and get their sparkle back, often after a difficult period in their lives. I do this by offering counselling, and well-being training services promoting positive mental health, including some specialist services for women. Sessions are available 1-1 and as group classes, with some workshops available nationwide. Private and corporate clients welcome.

As a Mindfulness Practitioner, I also suggest practical strategies for quality rest and relaxation, including guidance on healthy sleep. With a special interest in dream interpretation, I have appeared as the ‘dream expert’ for TV shows like Loose Women, ITV’s This Morning and presenting the Guide to Sleep on Daybreak. You can find out more about this here

Mindfulness Class: Delphi, A HUGE THANK YOU. I really have learned so much and enjoyed every week.

For more details about the services I provide click here, or to book a free initial consultation for counselling (available in Bedford and Milton Keynes) complete the form below (subject to availability).  Please don’t send dreams for interpretation this way.  For dream interpretation services click here.  Messages are replied to during working hours.

 

Professional Career 

I started my therapeutic career in 2002, where I supported those bereaved by murder and suicide, including attending inquests at coroner’s court.  I also spent a brief time with the National Homicide Service.  I now work in the community promoting positive mental health through 1-1 sessions and group events.

When the time is right for my clients, their aim is to find their way forward and get their sparkle back; this is the foundation of the work I do. I listen to what my clients need, helping them find their way back to centre, towards a ‘new normal’.  Find out more about my counselling services here.

During 2018, I developed the training programme and was the specialist lead trainer for the More than Words project, developing peer support groups for bereaved people, around the country.  In 2019, I developed the training and became lead trainer for the You Behind the Uniform project, discussing bereavement awareness and encouraging self-care with front-line emergency personnel, including police officers and paramedics.  I also established a peer support group in Bedford.

Improving the Conversation for Women

In 2004, I established a unique website dedicated to Pregnancy Mental Health, following my own experience of depression and anxiety during pregnancy. This began a journey of promoting better mental for women, including supporting those escaping domestic abuse. I have featured in several popular magazines including Pregnancy and Birth and Natural Health magazines, and featured on radio programmes like Radio 4’s Women’s Hour. (You can see an extensive list of tv and media appearances below).  I also promote healthy dialogue to help end discrimination and highlight inequality, campaigning through my Lets Talk Lady Business™ website and social media, to help end shaming, exploitation and violence towards women.

Volunteering

I am involved locally as a ‘Community Champion’ encouraging collaboration between agencies that promote positive mental health and wellbeing, and volunteering with those that support victims of crime.  In 2018, I was nominated for one of the Women who Make Bedfordshire Safer Awards, held by the Office of the Police and Crime Commissioner.  In 2019, I was voted Volunteer of the Year for services to the community.

Community event hosted by OPCC
Community Cohesion Awards 2018

Qualifications and Training

My qualifications and training include Therapeutic Counselling, Delivering Adult Learning, Restorative Justice, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Support for Insomnia, Positive Psychology, Mental Health First Aid and Mindfulness. I am accredited to work with victims of crime, including those escaping domestic abuse.

TV and Media Career

I have enjoyed a TV and media career talking about the subjects I am passionate about, including healthy sleep and dreams.

Media Appearances include:

Radio –

BBC Radio: BBC Radio 2, BBC Radio 1 Xtra, BBC WM, BBC Shropshire, BBC Coventry, BBC Three Counties, BBC Radio 6 with George Lamb, BBC Suffolk Breakfast Show, BBC Radio Cambridgeshire Drive Time, BBC Radio Leeds Drive Time, BBC Tees, BBC Radio Shropshire, BBC Radio Scotland, BBC Radio 4, Woman’s Hour, BBC London with Sunny & Shay and on the Eddie Nestor show, Talk Sport, Beacon Radio, Hallam FM, Original 106 FM, Gemini FM, WLR FM, XFM, The Psychic Show (LBC 97.3), My Spirit Radio, Bridge Radio, Red FM

Television –

Loose Women, ITV’s This Morning, DayBreak (Presenter of The Guide to Sleep), , GMTV, The Wright Stuff, LK Today (Lorraine), Consultant to SO Television for My Lovely Audience (Graham Norton), Psychic TV

Featured work –

Daily Express, Mens Health magazine, Practical Parenting & Pregnancy Magazine, Natural Health, Soul & Spirit magazine, Huffington Post, Guardian (G2), Sunday Express, Pregnancy, Baby & You, Daily Express, Daily Telegraph, Pregnancy & Birth magazine, Prima Baby magazine, Practical Parenting, Columnist for Spirit & Destiny Magazine, Contributor to Talk Mum, Contributor to Silent Voices, Columnist for Spirit Force Magazine

PR Events

Dreams Bed Company, Maybelline New York, Sky + HD (article featured in Daily Telegraph), Johnson’s Beauty: Dreamy Skin, Snow Leopard Trust

Awards

  • Volunteer of the Year Cohesion Award for services to the community;
  • Nomination: “Women Who Keep Bedfordshire Safer”;
  • Regional Finalist for the Health and Social Care Awards for Mental Health and Wellbeing;
  • Spiritual Connextions Awards for Best Service to Others

I also work for a charity in my spare time which offers a unique transport service for cancer patients, which won the Queens Award for Voluntary Service.

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With Delphi’s help, I have a new perspective on life and the strength to face new and challenging things in a positive way.” B.

© Delphi Ellis, Helping You Sparkle™ – Wellness through Learning™

Monday Mojo – Toot Your Horn

What would happen if you said it like it is right now? Sometimes we hold back for all the right reasons, while other people push ahead. 

Last week, I travelled into London to deliver a mindfulness taster session.

As I travelled in a taxi towards my first appointment, all I could hear were cars, vans and lorries beeping their horns.
No one was moving anywhere.
Lights weren’t changing.
Congestion stayed as it was. 

But nonetheless people sat on their horns, trying to push people (metaphorically speaking) out of the way.

My dad always used to say “it doesn’t matter how pushy they are, they’ll never get through a door marked ‘pull’.” No amount of forcing things to happen, will necessarily get the result you want.

That doesn’t mean there won’t be times when it’s worth a try though.  The horn in your car, after all, is to let people know you’re there. 

If you’ve been hesitating to make your point lately, or put an idea forward, it might be because you’re waiting for that perfect moment. Maybe you’re worried what other people will think.  Perhaps you question your right to say something, or because others have shouted louder.  Whatever the reason, you have the right to be heard in every moment.

This week, set the intention to Toot Your Horn.  Find a way to feel comfortable  over the next few days to blow your own trumpet. You could talk about an achievement no matter how long ago, or something that makes you proud. Ask a trusted friend to help, by asking them if they could toot your horn, what would they say. Then do the same for them. (You could also use this image to ‘Toot Your Horn’ on social media.)  And, if someone else needs to be spoken with by way of setting them straight, practice what you’ll say. Grow your confidence  to ask for what you want in any moment; you might not always get it, but you still deserve to try.

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©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

Monday Mojo – Reclaim Your Power

How powerful do you feel today?

Let’s be honest, by the time Monday comes round, we can feel exhausted. 

In the ‘old days’ the working week was clearly defined for many people: Monday to Friday, 9 to 5 and the weekends were reserved for rest and relaxation.  But today it’s not that simple. 

The technology we have at our fingertips means we are available to people 24 hours a day, seven days a week. We take calls and answer emails, long after the working day has finished. It’s hard to switch off.  

And, because we’re all so busy, the weekends are no longer a playground. It’s when all the jobs get done that couldn’t be done during the week. Sound familiar?

When we’re running on empty, we can start to feel powerless. It can feel like the world is happening to you, instead of with you.  It’s why taking time for rest and relaxation matters, and self-care needs to be part of the routine.

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Many people tell me that self-care feels self-indulgent, but that’s because we are socialised to feel that way. It’s in our childhood programming to avoid being seen as lazy, which forms our rule-book in later life, and society endorses it. The good news is, you can re-write those rules. 

This week, set the intention to Reclaim Your Power. If you feel guilty taking time for yourself, ask yourself why and where that comes from – who told you that your health matters less than everyone else? Try to challenge any thinking that doesn’t serve you well. If it feels more comfortable, start small with your self-care plan: take five to read a magazine, run yourself a warm bath, or treat yourself to something lovely. But remember, that to take care of yourself is how you take your power back. 

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©️Delphi Ellis 2019

Mindfulness: It’s The Thought That Counts

We have thousands of thoughts a day.

It’s been suggested we have between 12,000 to 80,000 thoughts, which could be as many as 2,500 an hour.

According to some articles up to 85% of the thoughts we have are negative, and 90% are repetitive. What you thought about yesterday, you’ll probably think about today and tomorrow.

Although we may think that thoughts matter, the reality is that most of our thoughts are untrue. They feel real, and we believe them, but they’re not facts.

This means you might have a thought, and you instinctively act on it. Even if you don’t physically do something with it, you might spend hours thinking, and thinking (and thinking) about how to deal with it. It can be exhausting.

The brain is like a muscle, and whatever you give your time and attention to, you’ll get good at – the muscle strengthens. So if you focus on learning the piano, you’ll become an accomplished pianist. In the same way, if you spend your time focused on worries, you’ll get good at worrying. (Watch the video “Mind the Bump” by Smiling Mind below to see an animation about this).

The mind is designed to think: that’s its job. If you don’t give your mind something to do, it will find something. For some people, not being able to tame their thinking can lead to stress, anxiety and depression.

We know now about neuroplasticity – the ability to change the way the brain behaves throughout your lifetime. This essentially means that you can teach it to work differently. Research supports that one way to effectively train and manage the mind is through mindfulness.

Mindfulness is bringing your awareness fully to the experience of living in the present moment. You’ve probably been mindful more times than you realise. If you’ve ever caught yourself listening to the rain on your windowsill, or captivated by a sunset, this is mindful awareness. This is also known as informal meditation or “off cushion” practice.

One of the biggest myths about meditation is that it’s about clearing the mind. In fact, it is your thinking that makes the activity possible, by recognising thoughts as they come into your awareness, and describing in your mind what you’re doing: thinking. So it literally is the thought that counts.

When we think of formal meditation many people think of someone sitting cross legged on the floor. But you don’t need to do this to use mindfulness in your meditation. Here’s an activity you can try at home or at work:

Sit in an upright chair with your back straight and your head facing forwards. You can keep your eyes open if you want to, or close them if it feels safe to do so. Spend a moment noticing the sounds that come in to your awareness. There are no ‘right’ sounds or ‘wrong’ sounds, just sounds. Acknowledge them, experience them and label them in your mind for what they are: “sound”.

As you do this, you’ll notice that your mind starts to wander. Acknowledge this with kindness, remembering that’s just what minds do. As you become aware that your mind has drifted, acknowledge this and simply describe in your mind what you’re doing which is: “thinking”. Then return your attention once again to the experience of sitting in a chair, listening for sounds.

You could also try this one minute mindfulness activity.

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Monday Mojo – Stop and Drop

  • Is something weighing you down right now?When we live busy lives it’s easy to lose sight of how much we are carrying around:
    • The challenges of trying to get everything ‘just right’. 
    • Worry about friends or family.
    • Deadlines at work. 
  • They all add up. 
  • It helps to recognise what’s on your mind and what’s taking its toll, because it’s there anyway, whether you put the spotlight on it or not. The body often speaks first, with headaches, or catching every bug that’s going round.  So, it might be time to let go of some things which are weighing heavy.
  • In mindfulness we refer to curiosity as a way of noticing how the mind wanders off, but without judging the thoughts we have.  Instead of becoming the participant in your thinking and getting tangled in the ‘whys’ and ‘what if’s, you can learn to be the observer of your thoughts, as they arise, without judgement.  When I talk about letting go, I don’t mean forgetting the thoughts or problems dragging you down, quite the opposite. Instead, you recognise thoughts as they arise, and then give yourself permission to come back to them if they serve a purpose, when you consciously decide it matters. 
  • This week, set the intention to Stop and Drop. Over the next few days, take a moment to pause in your busy schedule and ask yourself what’s really weighing you down. Give yourself 20 minutes ‘worry time’ if needed, then give yourself permission to relax, even if only for a few minutes more. As you become aware of thoughts, simply describe in your mind what you’re doing which is “thinking” and then with gentle kindness give yourself permission to come back to them later. Then breathe and take your time. Here’s a Spotify playlist that might help.
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  • ©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

    Counselling

    Therapy can be helpful for people trying to find direction or who want to get their sparkle back, often after a difficult period in their lives.

    I am a registered, qualified therapist offering integrated person-centred services, working within a professional, ethical framework.  Services include counselling, coaching, and workplace supervision.

    You can book a free initial consultation online here (subject to availability).

    Take a look at the frequently asked questions below.

    “How does it work?”

    When you attend your first appointment, I’ll explain a few important details about confidentiality (see below) and then we’ll talk about how I may be able to help. Most people want to look at a particular aspect of their lives that’s not working for them.

    You might be suffering with stress, depression or anxiety and want to find practical, effective ways to manage your mental health. You might have lost your mojo at work, or are struggling to recover after the breakdown of a relationship or a bereavement, and want to get your sparkle back.

    I offer a free initial consultation to all new clients. This enables us to explore your situation and what you’re hoping to achieve, and how I can help. I offer sessions which last up to 50 minutes each, in Bedford and Milton Keynes (subject to availability). Appointments are also available over the ‘phone (in the UK) and via Skype.

    What type of therapy do you offer?

    I offer an integrated approach, which means the service I offer can blend models like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), methods like coaching, and philosophies like mindfulness – meaning each situation is tailored to the client. I have worked in a therapeutic setting for over 15 years. (If you’d like to know more about me and my career, click here).

    “What’s the difference between counselling and coaching?”

    There are many definitions but for me coaching is a solution-focused approach to finding your way forward, creating an action plan and agreeing specific steps to achieve your goal.  This can include setting an agenda for the session, being set ‘homework’ and putting time limits on the work we do together.  Coaching can incorporate CBT methods, and is particularly useful for people trying to manage anxiety, or having problems getting motivated at work.

    Counselling is more fluid, with clients bringing what they want each week to discuss – it’s less solution-focused, and more about acknowledging and managing difficult emotions like depression and grief.

    “Is it confidential?”

    Yes, with a couple of important exceptions. If you seem to be thinking about hurting yourself or someone else, or disclose that you intend to or already have broken the law, I’m obliged to let the relevant authorities know. I also receive ‘clinical supervision’ during which I discuss my case load anonymously. This means I work with and talk about my cases with another trained counsellor, ensuring the work I do with you remains helpful, and within my remit.

    “What if I’m really struggling?”

    I will always encourage you to speak to your GP in the first instance, and reach out to organisations like Samaritans who are available 24/7 on 116 123.  If you’re really worried about your health call 111 or in an emergency, 999.

    “What else do I need to know?”

    There are charities in Bedford and Milton Keynes which provide free listening services. You may wish to explore these before paying for services advertised here.

    How to book

    You can book your free initial consultation here.  If you have an enquiry,  use the form below to get in touch.  Messages are answered during office hours. Private and Corporate clients welcome.

    Monday Mojo – Create Your Space

    Where is your sanctuary?

    The place you go when you need some time out, when you need some peace and quiet away from the chaos of the world.  Because we all need one. 

    When life is busy, it’s easy for our private spaces to become cluttered.
    Magazines get piled up in the corner, with every intention they’ll get read.  
    Paperwork grows on one corner of your work space.
    And that pile of clean washing lives on ‘the chair’.

    Whether you share your living space, or live on your own, there’s something about having your own space when you need to unwind. 
    • To disconnect from life for a while
    • To recharge your batteries
    • To relax, and find your way back to centre. 

    In a busy world that won’t slow down, it’s not always easy to find a quiet space, when there’s always things to do, people to see and places to go. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. Dedicating a place for you to unwind can boost your Mojo. 

    This week, set the intention to Create Your Space. See if there is a place in your home or garden where you can retreat when you need some sanctuary. If not, see if you can create that space in such a way that the minute you step into it,  it feels like a place of calm. Decorate it with things that bring peace to your world – your favourite colours, something sparkly or even a letter or postcard from someone you love. Tell people you live with it’s a ‘no whinge zone’, so only good vibes are welcome there.  If it’s a shared space, negotiate the times you use it to be fair to everyone, but at the same time make sure they respect the space you’ve created. And most of all, create time in your diary to use it, and give yourself permission to relax – because you deserve it.

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    ©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

    Monday Mojo – Enjoy the Moment

    What do you do when you get a day off?

    It’s Easter Monday as this is published, here in the U.K. and for a lot of people it can mean any number of things, most of which require energy. We think about doing some spring cleaning. We might consider getting a bit of DIY done. Or perhaps remind ourselves the lawn needs mowing. 

    In this busy world, when we get an extra day off, the focus may be more on doing than being. It’s easy to forget that we need to “be” as much as “do”, and so even when we’re blessed with gorgeous weather we see it as a chance to see to the garden or put the washing out.  And I get it, not least of all because we never know when the warm weather will arrive.  

    However, this is your permission slip to take some time out too. 

    This Bank Holiday, and for the rest of this week, set the intention to Enjoy the Moment. Find pockets of time in your busy schedule to sit and just be. Make yourself a cuppa, put your feet up and play your favourite songs even if only for a few minutes.  And breathe. Notice the way that air flows in and out of your body; that your breath doesn’t breathe into the future – it’s always now.

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    ©️ Delphi Ellis 2019

    Useful Links and Contacts – Mental Health Awareness

    If you’re worried about your physical or mental health, speak to your doctor as soon as possible.

    This page contains some links for the U.K. which may be useful. This is not an exhaustive list, and a link doesn’t mean we endorse the content, just that you may find it useful:

    If you’re struggling with your mental health, and need someone to talk to, remember Samaritans: are available 24/7 on 116 123 – http://Samaritans.org

    Powher provide an advocacy service particularly around mental health and work. https://www.pohwer.net/

    If you’re worried about a young person:

    Papyrus: (preventing suicide in young people) 0800 068 41 41 https://www.papyrus-uk.org/help-advice

    Young Minds: https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/looking-after-yourself/

    Other sources of help:

    Help for those who recognise the symptoms of obsessive compulsive disorder.  Contains a perinatal OCD information leaflet. http://www.ocdaction.org.uk

    Combat Stress (UK Veterans Mental Health Charity): http://combatstress.org.uk 0800 138 1619

    Mind information leaflets on different types of mental health condition: http://mind.org.uk

    Heads Together’s Tips for Talking: http://headstogether.org.uk/tipsfortalking

    “Finding the words to ask for help” video by Mind:

    Bereavement

    Cruse Bereavement Care

    National Bereavement Service includes guides on Registering a Death and Coroner’s Inquests

    Chums (for children)

    Milton Keynes Bereavement Service

    Child Bereavement UK

    SOBS (for those bereaved by suicide)

    National Homicide Service (Bereaved Families affected by Homicide)

    Domestic Abuse

    Refuge

    Eating Disorders

    Beat Eating Disorders

    Pregnancy Mental Health

    Maternity Action is a UK charity committed to improving the health and well-being of pregnant women, partners and young children. www.maternityaction.org.uk

    Relationship counselling service www.relate.org.uk

    Refuge – Information about Pregnancy and Domestic Abuse http://www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/what-is-domestic-violence/domestic-violence-and-pregnancy

    Talk Mum – A community for Mums and Mums to Be

    Elaine Hanzak is a speaker and author of two books around post-natal depression.

    Raising awareness of post-natal depression The Joanne (Joe) Bingley Memorial Foundation

    Tommy’s Premature Baby Charity Tommy’s

    Frequently Asked Questions: https://pregnancymentalhealth.net/frequently-asked-questions/

    NHS Choices – pregnancy and mental health: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/mental-health-problems-pregnant.aspx

    NHS Choices – post-natal depression: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Postnataldepression/Pages/Introduction.aspx

    Mind information leaflet: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/

    There are also services like:

    Sands support – for anyone affected by the death of a baby http://www.sands.org.uk/

    Miscarriage Association: https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

    For men:

    Calm Zone (specifically for men): https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/

    https://pregnancymentalhealth.net/2016/10/21/ante-natal-and-post-natal-depression-and-anxiety-in-men/

    Videos

    “Be in your mate’s corner” video by Time to Change is here:

    Responding with empathy: https://helpingyousparkle.com/2017/10/25/making-space-to-talk-responding-with-empathy-when-someones-struggling/

    This is not an exhaustive list. Remember, always speak to your doctor or midwife, if you have concerns about your mental or physical health. Links to sites or services doesn’t mean we endorse their content, just that the information may be of interest.

    Monday Mojo – Grow Your Tribe

    Where do you belong?

    As human beings, we are tribal by nature. Our desire to fit in can govern the lives we lead. It can dictate what we say and do. How we connect and thrive. 

    In truth, many of us like to fit in, and not because it’s fashionable, but because it’s a basic human need to call somewhere ‘home’, and to feel important to those around us.   As Brené Brown says, “we are wired to love, to be loved and belong”.

    But when we discover the people we spend our time with don’t align with our beliefs, or don’t share our values, it makes for an awkward if not uncomfortable time.  Maybe people at work or at home leave you feeling:
    Unheard
    Misunderstood
    Lonely. 

    In the UK alone, over 9,000,000 people identify with feelings of loneliness. That they can be in a room full of people and still feel alone – perhaps you know that feeling. I’m saying this because you deserve to be amongst those who can see the gift you bring to the party of life. This is is why it’s so important that you spend time with those who can help you feel at home. 

    This week, set the intention to Grow Your Tribe. Take a look at your social circle, and think about whether the company you keep meets your needs. Do your friends lift you up or bring you down? Are people in your company happy at your success or jealous of it? Do the ones you share your thoughts with allow you to be witnessed just as you are, and listen, or leave you feeling unheard. Start to recognise who helps you sparkle – and spend time in good company. You have every right to be heard and belong.

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    ©️ Delphi Ellis

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